Buy Yourself the D*mn Flowers
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This post highlights the first book published by content creator and confidence maker, Tam Kaur. In her book, Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers, Tam unpacks the importance on self love through personal anecdotes and tailored advice for anyone on their own journey. Tam documented every important moment as she reached the milestone of becoming a first-time published author, allowing her audience to be on the journey of this major accomplishment with her. An uplifting listen or read for anyone searching for positive energy and confidence in womanhood.
Book Overview
Title: Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers
Author: Tam Kaur
Length: 288 pages (7 hour 7 minute listen)
Synopsis
"Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers" brings you on a transformative journey to becoming the type of woman who finds everything she needs within herself. Author, Tam Kaur, shares her personal journey of self-love and empowerment by recapping tales of old relationships and friendships, discussing how she discovered the power of self discovery, and relaying the tools she learned along the way.
Tam draws from her own experiences with dating and relationships as a way to encourage readers to prioritize their own happiness and well-being, making you feel less alone in the lessons you've learned in your dating life.
She emphasizes the importance of "dating yourself," a concept that involves spending quality time alone, engaging in self-care activities, and cultivating a deep sense of self-worth. Tam does an excellent job in giving you applicable advice in leveling up your life. In fact, each chapter ends with self-help homework to get you started as soon as you put the book down.
Through honest storytelling and actionable tips, Tam empowers readers to break free from limiting beliefs and embrace their true potential. For anyone learning to embrace self-love and prioritize their own needs, this book is what you need to cultivate fulfilling relationships with yourself and others.
History of the Book
Tam Kaur’s journey to writing “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” began as a personal exploration of self-love and empowerment. After a series of challenging relationships, she turned to her online platform to share her experiences and insights. Her relatable and honest approach resonated with her audience, and soon, she began to gain a loyal following.
Inspired by the positive feedback and encouragement from her followers, Tam decided to expand her message into a book. In 2023, she announced her plans to write a self-help book focused on self-love, dating, and personal growth. Her audience was excited for the expansion of Tam's brand and eagerly anticipated the release of the book.
As Tam dedicated herself to writing the book, she drew on her own experiences and the wisdom she had gained through her journey. She poured her heart and soul into the project, sharing practical advice, inspiring anecdotes, and heartfelt reflections, and documenting the process to her fans along the way.
From writing the book to releasing it, Tam utilized her strong social media presence and relationship with her audience to promote her book. She shared behind-the-scenes glimpses of the writing process, hosted book signings and virtual events, and engaged with readers on various platforms.
After its release, the book quickly gained traction, topping bestseller lists and receiving critical acclaim. Tam has been on billboards, magazines, and dozens of media publications in recognition for her achievement. Her gratitude for life and ambition to continuously grow inspires millions of women around the world, me being one of them.
Why I Read This Book
Immediately after finishing my last audiobook, 101 Essays that Will Change the Way You Think, I was on the search for my next one. My first time listening to an audiobook quickly made me fall in love with the experience.
Here's why:
I was growing tired of listening to my same old music on repeat all day long. Listening to an audiobook brought something fresh to listen to.
I was falling behind in my reading list and with the end of the year fast approaching, this was my way of quickly catching up to make up for lost time.
Listening to audiobooks on my drives and in between daily tasks made me feel so much more productive with my time. Suddenly, sitting in traffic wasn't so frustrating because every second I was in the car, I was expanding my mind.
This was a very convenient solution to consuming books I was hesitant about investing my time and money into. Audiobooks take up a lot less of both.
There was something about knowing exactly how much time was going into finishing the book, down to the second, that gave me a boost of motivation. It's like when I finished the book, I knew I just dedicated X amount of hours into improving myself.
I've been following along Tam's journey since the release of Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers, and I've been curious to read it for myself for a while now. I didn't think I would be getting to it anytime soon, because there were so many other self-help books on my reading list that I needed to get to.
After I finished listening to 101 Essays, I decided to search and see if an audiobook was even available with my Spotify membership. When I saw that it was, it was a no brainer that this would be my next listen.
I had spent the last few weeks catching up on Tam's podcast, Self-Obsessed, and I knew the content would be ending soon. Listening to her audiobook was my way of keeping Tam's voice consistently in my life just a little bit longer before I waited for her to release more content.
As soon as I finished season 3 of Self Obsessed, I pressed play on Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers.
Emotions Evoked from This Book
My favorite part about Tam's content is that listening to her feels like listening to a friend. She's my age, with my ambitions, with experiences similar to me and my peers. Although she provided a ton of valuable information on personal development, she packaged it in a way that felt relatable.
This is something that is at the nucleus of what I am trying to do at The Hustle Legacy, so I've often pulled on Tam for inspiration of who I want to be and how I want to show up for the world. In fact, it was people like her that made me realize what it is that I wanted to do with my life (which was to build the first Ecosystem of Self Discover, The Hustle Legacy).
Listening to Tam throughout this book made me feel so incredibly proud of her. She did it! She became a published author! I have watched her dream about this from my screen for what feels like years now.
Seeing Tam accomplish such an incredible feat made me feel like I could do it to. As I listened to her words and her stories, I imagined the stories I'd put into my own book. I'd think about all the content I've already written for the website, and how easy it would be to use it all to outline a book if I chose to.
The magical thing about Tam is that she inspires by example. You hear in her passion that she worked hard to become who she is today. Knowing how hard I'm working (as I'm sure you are too), it makes you imagine the day you'll look back at yourself now filled with gratitude for everything you've done.
Tam Kaur is just a girl in her twenties arguably even more obsessed with Self Discovery with me. She just happens to put a different spin on it, calling is Self Obsession. Her work reminded me of how important it is to put everything I've got into my own.
I'm so glad audiobooks introduced me to a way to consume more content like hers, without letting them sit for years on my reading list.
Why You Should Read It
This is an inspiring listen or read for any women looking to grow her confidence.
Tam's entire brand is built on emphasizing the importance of showing up for yourself more than anyone else ever will. She reframes the idea of conceitedness and guides you on your journey into falling in love with yourself.
Her book is filled with joy, gratitude, and passion for the human experience and shows you how to see your life from a brand new perspective.
I recommend this book to anyone in need of more positive energy. The greatest benefit I see this book offering is bringing you the mindset needed to rewire your brain. From applicable assignments in how to grow your confidence to in-depth explanations of why Self Discovery matters, this book opens your mind up to the possibility of an abundant future.
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